If you ever had to move out of town as a child it may have been a real heart breaking experience filled with questions and worries. Children usually have a hard time dealing with change and moving to a new city can be devastating. Help your children avoid the same kinds of anxieties that were common when we were moving.
There are many circumstances that can lead a person to move to a new city; financial troubles or job requirements are the most common. No matter the reason, parents should keep a positive attitude about moving because children tend to take on the views and opinions of their parents so talking negatively about the situation may cause your child to become depressed about the move.
The best thing to do is to include your children in the decision to move from the start so they have enough time to start dealing with the emotions they may feel while they are still at home. Including kids in the moving process gives them the feeling that the move is a family effort instead of a forced relocation from their friends and social lives. You should try to give your children as much information as possible about their new environment, things like pictures and details about various activities in the area can make a child feel like they are moving to a regular neighborhood much like their own.
Younger children are not as complicated as they don’t have any attachments outside of the home. It is still a good idea to include them in the moving process by explaining the process to them as clearly as possible. Let them know that when the movers pack their toys and belongings into boxes that they are not being thrown away. If possible you should try to keep the same furniture until your child gets fully settled into your new home to give them something familiar to come home to.
Although it may be tempting to let your child finish out the current school year at their school, you should try to move right before a long vacation to give your kids time to get acquainted with their new school and possibly make friends. If you must move during summer vacation it would be a good idea to enroll your kids in summer school or a summer program like day camp to help them adjust to their new neighborhood.
Teenagers are naturally rebellious and usually resistant to change especially if they are involved in social activities or romantic relationships. You should let them know that this is not the last time that they will have to deal with changes in life and that you understand how they feel. Let them know that this move will help prepare them for collage or moving for work.
You should allow your teen to visit with family or friends that may still live in the area or plan as many trips back to the old neighborhood as possible especially for major events like prom or homecoming. It will still take time for your kids to get fully adjusted to their new environment but your efforts should help ease the transition.